As a primary family caregiver, you may feel that your times of peace are difficult to come by, particularly if your parent is suffering from dementia. There is, however, a trick to caring for someone with dementia. And that is looking though the eyes of a child. It is said that as children we laugh up to 300 times in one day and that as adults that is diminished to a mere 20 at the most. The statistics seem to vary from one source to another, but I know from my own experiences that it is accurate. Where do we lose our sense of wonder? And can our parents that are suffering from dementia help us bring it back?
“I wish you peace when times are hard. A light to guide you through the dark. And when storms are high and your dreams are low, I wish you the strength to let love go. “ Those words are from an Eagle’s song entitled, I Wish You Peace. They are the perfect words for those whose parents are suffering from dementia. It’s a matter of letting go. Of allowing your child and your parent’s child to return to ground zero. To accept the innocence that is being reborn just as the intellect is fading. And, really, what is more important to a happy life? If your parent can overcome the anxiety and fear that accompanies a child-like mind—could they not return to a wonderful state of hopeful gratitude and childlike wonder? And isn’t that a better place for all of us to reside?
Those that are caring for a parent with dementia seem to have two philosophies—they either enjoy the simple and yet sometimes fearful attitude of those they care for, or they lie in wait and dread of the next bout of anxiety and agitation. Allow peace to enter your life and the life of those you care for. Accept their state of mind and appreciate those moments when peace overcomes pain.
Home Care Provider
You will find that in order to maintain an attitude of joyful expectation, you will need some moments to yourself. That is human nature. In order to provide the best care possible for you aging parent, you will need to take a day or two off during the week. Considering obtaining the assistance of a home care provider who can assist your parent with the daily activities of living while at the same time providing you with the time you need to recharge and regenerate.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregivers in Buckeye, AZ, contact the caring staff at Assisting Hands Home Care at (480) 725-7002.