Whether your elderly loved one has always been a little bit difficult or is venting her frustration on you now, having a difficult elderly loved one makes being a family caregiver that much more difficult. If you don’t learn how to manage the situation effectively, you may not be a caregiver for long.
Put Your Health First
If you’re not already putting your own health high on your priority list, you need to change that. Ignoring your own health leaves you more vulnerable to stress and other health problems that can take you out of the caregiving game altogether. Prioritize your own health before something does that for you. If you haven’t been to your doctor in a while, it’s past time for you to make an appointment for yourself.
Find Ways to Manage Stress
Managing your stress is crucial when your elderly loved one is actively making things more difficult than they have to be. Learn to meditate. Start keeping a journal. Find ways to vent your own frustrations that are healthy and safe. If you don’t start doing these things, you’re going to find yourself way more stressed out than you have to be.
Learn How to Set Boundaries
Boundaries in life are like fences. They let you and other people know where they can and cannot go. Psychologically speaking, boundaries help you to determine what types of actions and behaviors you’ll tolerate and which ones you won’t. People who don’t have solid boundaries tend to feel like doormats because people treat them poorly.
Join a Support Group
Joining a support group can help you to meet other family caregivers who understand exactly what you’re dealing with on a daily basis. They can help you to figure out what you can do in order to make your situation better. They can also serve as a sounding board so that you can vent some of your frustration. Advice that you get from other caregivers in your support group can help you to establish a self-care plan that works well for you.
Remember that your loved one may not be difficult because of you. Try not to take what she says and does too much to heart.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregivers in Phoenix, AZ, contact the caring staff at Assisting Hands Home Care at (480) 725-7002.