Elderly Care in Scottsdale AZ
If you’re now the person in your family providing care for your elderly parent, chances are they have already lost their spouse—whether your other parent, or in the case of a remarriage, a step-parent. And whether it happened last week, last year, or longer than that, the stages of grief cannot be rushed. Some may get over their loss very quickly; others may never get over it.
Because April is Worldwide Bereaved Spouse Awareness Month, this might be a good time to talk with your parent about their loss, especially if it’s real recent, and help them experience and express their feelings.
Everyone expresses grief in different ways: Some people cry; while others may express their grief in others, like anger, or disbelief. And it may also come out on a physical level, not just emotional. The main thing is to let your parent express their grief in their own way, in their own time. If they feel they need to talk with a professional, help them find one. There are also support groups that can help the bereaved. In the meantime, there are some small, simple things you can do to help your elderly parent cope with their loss.
- Plan ahead for holidays and other special days, like wedding anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Invite your parent to do something with the family on those days. Don’t let the day sneak up on you so your mom or dad is sitting alone when they might prefer to be in the company of others.
- Let them remember their loved one. This might include looking through photo albums, watching an old video, or just reliving special memories.
- Help them honor the memory of their loved one by visiting the cemetery and placing flowers or a special memento on their grave; or by lighting a candle; watching a favorite movie of the spouse who has passed, or singing their favorite song, or doing one of their favorite activities.
- Encourage your parent to do something special for themselves on the day—whatever it might be. Sometimes just splurging on oneself can help, as long as it doesn’t cause them to overspend, which could cause other problems for them.
- Perhaps your loved one would like to participate in some kind of volunteering activity for the day. It’s a great way to interact with others, while helping with a cause close to their heart at the same time.
- When a spouse dies, sometimes traditions die with them. Encourage your parent to start a new tradition, rather than doing what they’ve always done or what’s merely expected of them.
- Don’t expect too much from your parent on these occasions, holidays or their own special days.
- Attending big family gatherings, helping to prepare a large meal or partaking in several activities or social engagements can be overwhelming. Let your parent decide what and how much they want to do. Maybe they’d prefer to just take it easy—and that’s okay, too.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Scottsdale, AZ, contact the caring staff at Assisting Hands Home Care at (480) 725-7002.
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