What is Dementia care?
Caring for someone with dementia can be daunting. If you do not understand the disease and are not compassionate toward the individual diagnosed, whether a relative or a client, you may not be dealing with dementia or the person correctly. Dementia is not just the loss of past memories. It is the loss of the individual. There are variations of the disease and each individual may be affected differently. As someone providing dementia care, you cannot assume that you will treat everyone exactly the same. You will need to be flexible and understanding toward the senior citizen you are compassionately dealing with.
Your parent may display aggressive behavior. Before this diagnosis your mom or dad may have been a very mild mannered individual. However, dementia may have destroyed that personality. It is imperative that both you and their dementia care provider understand that your parent is not being aggressive on purpose. The aggression is triggered by something they may not understand and cannot control. Often aggression comes from pure fear. It may be the tone of your voice, the lights in the room, temperature changes, hunger or a number of other factors in combination.
As a dementia care provider, it is your responsibility to narrow down their aggression. You are the detective to their confusion and locked brain. You do not want to engage in their anger and dispute with them; it is your responsibility to be the calm voice of reason and bring them to a place of peace. If your mother or father says its day, and it is night, disputing them will only create fear and annoyance. Reassure them that they are ‘Ok,’ keep your tone light, the time of day is not of importance. The word “NO” should be removed from your vocabulary. Reassurance is the key to wrapping mom or dad back into a safe world.