When you’re close to someone, sometimes you don’t talk about the really big issues because it’s scary to do so. You and your loved one might both be concerned about her risk of falling, for example, but you might be hedging around the issue. If you can work out why you’re avoiding the conversation, you might make some headway.
She Doesn’t Want to Freak You Out
Your elderly loved one probably doesn’t want to ever scare or alarm you when it comes to her health. She knows that you already worry quite a bit over her and she certainly doesn’t want to make that worse. But ignoring the issue doesn’t make it go away and if you don’t know that she’s concerned, you can’t do anything to help her.
She Really Doesn’t Want You to Overreact
It’s not uncommon at all for family caregivers to overreact a little bit when it comes to their loved one’s safety. That happens naturally because you love your loved one and you want the best for her. Unfortunately, she might see some of your actions as taking away her independence and that makes her feel trapped. Reacting calmly to the situation can help quite a bit, as can taking your time to work out a solution with her rather than for her.
You’re Worried about Hurting Her Feelings
On the other side of the equation, you might be concerned about hurting your loved one’s feelings. It’s not uncommon for family caregivers to see their loved ones as emotionally fragile, whether that’s accurate or not. But again, avoiding the situation doesn’t correct it and it doesn’t make it go away. Talk openly with your loved one in a loving and caring way about why the idea of her falling is so scary for you.
You’re Concerned that She’ll Tell You to Mind Your Own Business
Maybe your loved one is a little more feisty and you’re really concerned that she’s going to tell you to mind your own business about this whole falling thing. If that’s the case, you both need to realize that her fall risk is your business as her family caregiver and you’re just looking out for her safety.
Hiring home care providers can help both you and your loved one meet your own needs, keep your loved one safe, and yet still give her the level of independence that she wants.