Caregivers in Peoria AZ
Self-care can be a touchy situation for some family caregivers because you know that it’s something that would help you but you can’t get anyone else on board with the program. Here are some ideas for persevering and getting at least a little bit of self-care for yourself.
Look at the Reasons Self-care Isn’t Happening
Take a few minutes and sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. Jot down all the reasons that you can think of why self-care isn’t happening or isn’t possible for you right now. Your loved one might object vehemently to anyone but you taking care of him. You may have financial reasons that self-care isn’t possible right now. You may draw a bath only to find that the second the bubbles start forming, your loved one needs you immediately. Write down all of those reasons so you can start looking for patterns and solutions.
Are There Solutions You Just Don’t Like?
One big reason that self-care may not happen for a family caregiver is that there are solutions available, but they’re not palatable in the slightest. If that’s the case for you, you may need to really dig deep and see if you can get past that problem. It could be that a sibling you don’t get along with is the only person who is willing to help out when you need someone to stay with your loved one. Sure, that’s not a great solution, but it is a solution. Look for ways to make some of the not-so-great solutions a little more attractive.
You may scoff at this one, but meditating really can help you to feel calmer and more centered. No, you don’t have to go on a month-long meditation retreat at a Buddhist monastery to get to that point. You also don’t have to do anything special. Try sitting on the edge of your bed before you go to sleep and simply focus on clearing your mind. If you start to think of all the things you have to do, simply concentrate on your breath. That’s it. Do it for one minute, then work your way slowly up to two or three minutes. The effects are cumulative and you’ll find that it can help you immensely.
Modify the Advice You Receive
Whether you’re getting advice online or from well-meaning friends and family, you probably get a lot of people telling you how much you need self-care and that it can do you so much good. But you already know that, right? The problem is that you’re just not able to get to that right now because there’s so much other stuff demanding your attention. So try modifying the advice that you’re getting to fit it more into your current situation.
Take a Deep Breath
No matter what else you do, take a deep breath. When you’re stressed and you feel that you have no choice in a situation your body views that as a “fight or flight” scenario. Your breath becomes shallower and your body prepares to defend you or to take off. But that’s not really what you need. What you do need are a few calming breaths before you tackle the next problem on the list.
You may need to get a little creative in order to get yourself the time and space for self-care that you truly need.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregivers in Peoria, AZ, contact the caring staff at Assisting Hands Home Care at (480) 725-7002.
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