Elderly care decisions aren’t as easy as you might think. Deciding how to best help an aging parent can lead to family squabbles, guilt, and uncertainty. You need to sit down as a family and consider what happens when your parents need care. Here are questions you must ask of each other and your parents.
How Are Your Parents’ Finances?
Financial assistance with activities of daily living isn’t always possible. If your parents are lucky, they may qualify for Medicaid and get help covering some of the cost of long-term care. Even if they do, there are strict limits on how much care is paid for. Your parents also must meet the criteria that dictate the need for in-home caregivers. Most families end up paying for caregivers out of their own savings.
Do You Have Time to Offer Family Care?
To cut costs, many families decide to provide care for aging parents on their own. This can be very challenging if siblings have jobs and families of their own. You’ll often have to create a schedule where siblings sign up for time slots that fit into their work schedules and personal lives.
If you have two siblings and you all have 9 to 5 jobs, no one will be able to cover mornings and afternoons with your parents. You have at least 8 hours where your parents are going to be alone. Does that work for your family?
Are You Capable of Helping Out?
If you can’t cook, you won’t be helpful when it comes to preparing your parents’ meals. If you have an allergy to cats and your parents own cats, you won’t be able to stay in the family home for long. This can affect the quality and length of care you’re physically able to provide.
What Happens if the Unexpected Happens?
If everything works out and you’re able to find family caregivers for the entire day, is there a backup plan? If you come down with pneumonia and can’t care for your parents for a week or two, what happens then?
What happens if your family finances change? Your husband’s employer lays him off. He’s not making as much money on unemployment, so you have to go back to work. What happens to your parents when you do?
What Do Your Parents Want?
Your parents may not take kindly to your reminding them what they need to do. The more they resist your help, the more frustrating it can become. It can cause strain on family relationships.
You have to consider your parents’ wishes when planning elderly care arrangements. If they’re going to shut you out, it may be better to come up with other arrangements.
There are things you can do to make caregivers affordable for your parents’ budget. You might have to balance family care with respite care from caregivers. In the end, it’s worth it. Your parents remain independent and happy. In turn, that leads to strong family relationships.
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