Family caregivers are sick of the “S” word!
Family caregivers have confided in me that they hate two things: being called a “saint” for caring for their loved one, and being nagged about practicing “self-care.”
On its face, neither seems terribly offensive, especially when compared to emptying bed pans. But the truth of it is, anyone of us, given the gift of loved ones & long life, could be a caregiver or the person that is cared for. It’s not a role reserved for saints. But on our best days, it does bring the saint out. On our worse days? Well, that’s a story for another day.
So, on to self-care. It can be like offering a spa day to a new mom the days after delivery. When you are mentally and physically exhausted, it can be difficult to even imagine what self-care looks like. And if you can care out the time, you may spend it eaten away with guilt or worry. But who will care for the caregiver?
Here is a practical toolkit on self-care for the skeptic.