Caregiving is difficult enough, but if your elderly loved one is making the situation even more difficult, it’s time to look for other solutions. These ideas might help you to find a solution that works for you and your elderly loved one.
Set up Some Boundaries
Setting up some boundaries for yourself and detaching are the two best techniques that you can use in order to give yourself some space. Detaching means that you still love and care about your elderly loved one, but you won’t allow yourself to be mistreated. Some of the boundaries that you might set up could involve taking frequent respite time or leaving the room if your loved one starts criticizing you.
Try Counseling Together
In some situations, it’s really helpful to go to therapy together. Your loved one could be angry over aspects of her situation that really don’t have anything to do with you. If you’ve always had a difficult relationship, counseling now can help to work through at least a few of those issues. At the very least, this can give you tools to handle the situation as it exists right now.
Hire Elderly Care Providers
For some caregivers and their elderly loved ones, caregiving from afar is really the healthiest option for everyone involved. If that’s the case for you, then hiring elderly care providers allows you to ensure that your loved one is cared for by experts but keeps you out of the line of fire, so to speak. You might find that this gives you and your elderly loved one the space that you need in order to treat each other much better than when you tried to be her caregiver in person.
Give Yourself Some Grace
No matter what happens, don’t beat yourself up over the situation. If you’re doing everything that you can to bring peace and love to the situation, then that’s all that you can do. Some elderly loved ones truly detest relying on anyone else for help and there’s not much that you can do about that.
Even if your loved one doesn’t want to cooperate with some of these ideas, you can still do things that make caregiving easier for you to do.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering in-home elderly care in Old City, PA, please contact the caring staff at Assisting Hands of Central Philadelphia. 215-274-0900.